I work full time, yes I work from home but I still work a full time schedule and normally work more than 40 hours per week. Prior to all of this COVID-19 craziness I worked from home.
When people found out I was going to put our daughter in day care/school I was very judged. People would say you are at home why don’t you keep her with you. BELIEVE me if I could I would. I don’t want my tiny little girl going to spend most of the day with other people and it would save a lot of money.
However, an infant is a full time job on it’s own and then add in an actual full time job. I am on the phone most of the day and tied to the computer. When she needs me I can’t give her my full attention and when work needs me it’s a challenge. I am not self employed, I work for a large company that requires my attention.
Now that a lot more people are in this boat I am seeing a lot of posts about how hard it is! Our children need our full attention and our jobs need our full attention. It is a very difficult thing to do. It is also heart breaking when we can’t do both, it makes us feel less than or like we are doing something wrong.
We are NOT! We are doing the best we can. I am proud to be a working mom and show my daughter that you can have a career and a family. If I had my choice I would be with her all of the time but that doesn’t teach her many of the things she needs to learn.
I hope the mom shaming and judging stops one day but I know it won’t.
So it’s another new year and time for me to set some focuses. These are the things I want to maintain throughout 2020. Some are the same as other years and some are new.
- Healthy Lifestyle – continuing to focus on health, not just physically but mentally as well. Being a new mom my health and routine for this is year is going to be 100% different.
- Finances – I love to always keep a budget and meet financial goals for my family and our future.
- Mommy Schedule – I want to focus on getting Savannah into a good routine for her and I to make both of us happy and healthy!
- New things – I love to try new things and I want to do more of that. I want to visit new place, restaurants, parks and try it all.
These are my main focuses and goals of the new year. No I am not focusing on a specific weight number because I never care, the number doesn’t matter to me. I am not picking a specific number for finances because things change in an instant and I just want to maintain good progress and moving forward. Since making this a goal about 4 years ago and tracking everything I have been able to pay off student loans, a car and keep my credit card paid off at all times!
I love a focus! What are your goals or resolutions for 2020?
I love trying new facial products and working on my skin health. I saw so many different people trying these, what I call, pore vacuums. I had to try but I didn’t want to spend a fortune.
I got the Derma Suction! It comes with 4 different attachments and two suctions speeds. The attachments allow you to get into all the groves of your face. Having two speeds or levels of suction gives you control over sensitive areas of your face.
I use this once a week, usually on Sundays. I cleanse my face and then use the Derma Suction. Keep the tool moving, do not let it sit in one spot on your face. I move in the same direction all over my face then go over it again the opposite direction. Once you are finished MOISTURIZE. I can’t say that enough! You just sucked not only the dirt and grime but the moisture out of your skin so you need to put it back. I usually use a moisture mask or a thick moisturizer cream.
You also want to clean out your took after each use, believe me you will be amazed and grossed out! There is also a small filter that will need to be changed periodically.
I have noticed a huge difference in my face and pores. My make up goes on smoother and my skin feels better. I don’t feel like I have little bumps everywhere or that my pores are full of gunk.
You can get yours at Bed Bath & Beyond (where I got mine it was $19.99), CVS, Walgreens and Wal Mart. These are just the places I have seen them. It’s not an expensive took and you will get great results!
From the moment I got pregnant my gums have been bleeding. I have talked about dental health before and I really try my best to do everything I can for my dental health BUT this has been awful. The cause is from the change in hormones in your body which increases the blood flow to the gums. With all the hormones from IVF and pregnancy it came on very quickly for me.
Swollen gums and bleeding – yuck!
So what can be done about it?
- Brush your teeth at least 2 a day using a soft bristle tooth brush
- Floss – recommended once a day but I just try to do it as often as I can
- Warm salt rinse – 1 tbls salt to 1 cup of water
- Keep up your dental visits (recommended every 6 months)
- Good nutrition will also help
It may not seem like a big deal but gingivitis can turn into periodontal infections which can cause preterm labor. This is a serious thing to pay attention to.
I know there is so much judgement in pregnancy, motherhood and just being a women in general. BUT guess what I don’t care. I am sharing my journey and part of that is staying active and working out while pregnant. I want to share what I have been doing to stay active.
**Everything I do is approved by my doctor, every pregnancy and person is different so always speak directly to your doctor**
I do a lot of walks, I try to do at least 4 a week about 1.5 miles each. It has been very hot in Texas lately so the walks can be a little more difficult to complete outside. The heat has really effected me, it slows me down and causes me to need to stop faster than normal. That is totally ok. I listen to my body and always have water with me.
I have done 28 days of Barre3. Barre is a combination of dance, pilates, yoga and muscle isolation that is a great low impact workout that everyone should try. It offers a lot of modifications for every level including pregnancy.
I am currently doing a 30 day push up challenge and focusing on weight training. Mixing it up and keeping it challenging on my body is helping me to stay active and motivated through this journey.
My focus is keeping my breathing strong and my body in the best shape I can so my delivery and postpartum go smoothly.
July 1 I started a 28 day #barre3anywhere challenge put on by Barre3. This is a nation wide Barre studio that offers online classes as well so you can do them anywhere even if a location isn’t convenient for you. This 28 day challenge involved 6 videos a week and one rest day. The videos ranged in length from 10 minutes to 30 minutes but don’t let that 10 minute number fool you, some of those were the hardest and left me really feeling the shake.
You can really do them anywhere. I did most of the videos on my lunch break in our living room. It was a great break from the computer and re-energized me for the rest of the day.
There are so many variations that no matter what your level or injury status is so you can do these workouts. I did have to do variations since I am pregnant and as the bump grew through the month some of the positions did get a little tricky. It was great to really work on my lower back and leg strength. You can add weights for added strength training for your arms as well.
Check out their website to see if there is a location near you and if not you can sign up for a free online trial and you can do these workouts anywhere. There is no excuse to not give it a try and see the transformation you can make in a short period of time.
I am on day 6 of the Push Up Challenge with Shape! I am loving the exercises and it is so easy to do them on their own or add them into any workout routine you already have. I can already feel soreness in my arms which means my strength is increasing. It’s not too late for you to join in on day 6 or start your own calendar with day 1!
If you have any questions about the exercises let me know!