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Car Accident

If you follow along on Instagram you know that a month ago I was in a car accident. I had just dropped my daughter off at school and 4 minutes later I was hit at an intersection by a gentleman who ran the stop sign. He was looking down the entire time and made no attempt or effort to stop. If my child had been in the car things would be very different. He hit directly where her car seat was and spun me around 180 degrees into on coming traffic. Thankfully the other vehicles were paying attention and no further damage occured.

My car was totaled, and you know that it took me years to give in and buy a new car! I left in the ambulance, but I will discuss that in a later post. I know that things can be replaced and people cannot. I am truly thankful that I am here and not further hurt. I am thankful my daughter was not in the car and that I was alone. I am thankful no other people were involved in the accident and that my vehicle was truly as safe as all the rating say.

I do however still have a lot of emotions caught up in the car itself. I worked so hard to finally say ok I will buy a new car, not just any care a brand new one the one I actually wanted! This took about 4 years of convincing. I was proud and elated to have done something for myself. It was fun to get in and drive. It was all taken away in a second because someone decided to not drive safely and be selfish. Yes you not paying full attention to driving is selfish! You take away the safety of every single person around you!

I also just kept saying “what if she was in the car” “what if I died she wouldn’t remember me” These are thoughts I now have daily and really effect some of the things I do. I am very scared in the car at all times now when I ride with someone else I flinch at everything and seriously freak out. I know in time it will get better but I just want people to be aware and safe.

I know many tragedies happen behind the wheel everyday. It’s not just our own life in our hands when we get behind the wheel!

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House Happenings

I haven’t updated about our house happenings in awhile so here goes. We aren’t doing anything crazy but trying to focus on certain areas or needs at a time. I am waiting for some new shelves to be built and installed in some wasted space areas to make them more functional so more to come on that.

When we moved in our master bedroom was so dark. The wall color, hard wood floor, lighting, and our furniture was just a dark combo. We pained the room about a year ago, got new bedding, and I have been searching for a rug but no luck yet (yes it has been 2 years of looking lol) . Recently I finally found new curtains, not only are they black out but they truly brighten the room. You may not believe me but just look at the pics. I got the curtains on Amazon from a Instagram recommendation. When I went to purchase they were on such a good sale you could only purchase 3 so thankfully my sister also purchased three for me and sent them my way! Gotta do what you gotta do.

I also took your suggestions for the fall front porch decor. I really don’t like spending a lot of money for things to sit outside. The wind is crazy at times in Texas so things blow all over and could break or be damaged so it’s not worth it. I did choose to purchase a layering front entry rug and some mums…..don’t be shocked but the mums are dead! (If you have been following long you know that I cannot keep a plant alive!) They looked good well they lasted. I will leave the fall decor until after Thanksgiving and then switch to winter/Christmas.

I am taking suggestions for winter ideas. So comment your ideas below.

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Me Time

It has been really hard for me to find time to myself. I wake up early with my sweet girl, get her ready for the day, take her to school, work all day, pick her up, dinner, bath, evening to do list, bedtime and cleaning. Then do it all again the next day. I totally love this new normal but it can be stressful and hard. I have really let myself go to the side and rarely do anything for me.

I was so excited for Cycelbar McKinney to open up after quarantine that I found a way to try it out. They offered 3 free classes and I took advantage. (If you know me I don’t pass up anything free) My husband stayed with the babe after work so I could do the 45 minute class. The first time it was rough for us both but it was honestly a really good way for him to learn and become more confident as a dad. It allowed him to figure things out without relying on me.

After the 3 free classes I signed up for 4 classes a month so I could go once a week. We have made it a great routine for us. He gets his daddy daughter time and I get a little bit of time alone to do something for myself. It has really helped. I get to relieve some stress and get my body moving.

I am not the top of the class by any means but spin/cycle is my absolute favorite workout so getting back into it has been wonderful. If you are local check them out and come ride with me!

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House Happenings

We have done some major changes recently. We repainted the dining room, office, upstairs hallway, and entry way. We also had the baseboards in the entire downstairs replaced!

We changed out the colors because the tan just made everything too dark. The color didn’t work well with the lighting and flow of the house. We did grey and white and it truly changed everything about the light in the house.

The baseboards were such a mess when we moved in. The previous own thought he could DIY and he could not. 🙂 The baseboards didn’t touch the ground so that gap was very annoying to me and held dirt and dog hair. They also were only primed not painted and the nail holes were not filled either, several areas were different shades of white primer as well. Many were chewed up by their dogs also, such a mess to say the least. I feel so much better now.

I did the painting of the dining room, hallway, and office. We had Sticks and Stones Remodeling do the entryway painting and replacing all the baseboards. They did a wonderful job. Very professional and excellent work. They were also very fast. We highly recommend to anyone in the local area!

BEFORES

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This is the first bigger project we have done. Mostly because we are never in a house long enough! I am so happy with the results.

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Walking It Off

Walking postpartum has really been such a blessing for me. I haven’t been able to consistently find the time yet for workouts so being able to walk with the babe has been keeping me active and getting us both outside. (She loves to be outside)

I try to do 2 miles a day but that is getting very difficult with the Texas heat. She is not a fan and is very hot blooded, we have a fan but it’s not enough. I have to find a time when the temp isn’t too crazy and then it’s as far as we can go, usually just over a mile.

With this goal in mind it has still be so great for my physical and mental health to continue to walk every day. It allows me to feel like I am moving my body and gives me time away from the long to do list that never ends at the house.

Benefits of Walking (A prior post)

Studies show that walking 30 minutes a day can reduce the risk of heart disease and stroke by up to 27%. I will take all the help I can get so lets go! Walking uses your entire body and improves circulation which helps control blood pressure and cholesterol. If you are walking outside you will also enjoy the Vitamin D.

Walking is low impact and easy on your joints. You can walk your neighborhood, beach, country side or anywhere at all. Pop in some head phones and enjoy your favorite music and take some me time.

Walking with me is almost like a run, BUT I do NOT run! I walk very fast and with a purpose. You don’t have to do this but it is kinda fun. In the nice weather I take my lunch break and walk around the office buildings, this is an easy way to take a break from work and get in that 30 minutes. It doesn’t have to be hard, make it enjoyable take your kids, pets, family or just go on you own.

Additional benefits are improving your mood, balance, strengthening your bones and muscles. Take advantage of this full body exercise and start with a fun way to begin your healthy lifestyle.

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Maternity Leave

I want to talk about my Maternity leave. It has been over since the end of February but I am just now finding time. Time is something that is very rare now a days 🙂

I felt like it flew by! Everyday was a new learning curve and trying to figure each other out. We had 3 major holidays during this time as well.

We came home from the hospital on Thanksgiving Day. My amazing family was here and prepared a traditional meal, which is my favorite thing! It was definitely an experience. I hadn’t eaten in days, recovering from a c-section and had a tiny baby. It was the first time I ate using my left hand and holding my babe in the other. I was not so good at it, now I am expert level! Little things like that people don’t tell you to practice. lol

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I know she will never remember her first Christmas but I wanted to make it an experience anyway! We still put up our tree and did minimal decorating, mostly because she never napped so putting up decorations was not entertaining to her. She LOVED looking at the lights on the tree. We also participated in the local holiday activities by going on walks or driving through neighborhoods looking at lights. It was a great way to learn how to get out of the house and adjust to having a baby with us. While we didn’t go and see Santa my husband obliged my crazy and dressed up in a Santa suite for photos on Christmas Day!

Most days were spent feeding, changing diapers, doing laundry and trying to remember to go to the bathroom and eat myself. Before I knew it, it would be dark out! I miss this time so much. 12 weeks is just not enough to learn each other!

After our pediatrician gave us the all clear I looked up the story times at the libraries and kids places near by. This was a great way for us to get out and interact with other people. She loved the music and colors. I also loved getting this one on one time where I wasn’t in our living room. It was a wonderful way to learn the local kids/baby places and all they have to offer. I now have a list of places for when she is older to participate for other fun activities. We also started the Read 1000 Books Before Kindergarten at the Allen Public Library. So fun and a great way to spend time together.

My husband also surprised us with our first family vacation, I will talk about this in another post.

Important Things to make sure you do during this time

  1. Get A copy of the Birth Certificate
  2. Add baby to insurance plans
  3. CHECK AND DOUBLE CHECK THESE
  4. Add baby as a beneficiary on any accounts you would like
  5. Start a file for their important paperwork

I mention this stuff because I spent a lot of time making calls and ensuring this was all done, because several things take multiple calls or submitals of paperwork and you don’t wan’t anything to be missing.

I envy every mom who had more time with their little one and I am thankful for the time I had. Being a Full Time Working Mom is HARD WORK, physically and emotionally. Judgement needs to stop for everyone and the comments people have made to me are shocking and none of their business. You do what works for you!

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Working Mama

I work full time, yes I work from home but I still work a full time schedule and normally work more than 40 hours per week. Prior to all of this COVID-19 craziness I worked from home.

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When people found out I was going to put our daughter in day care/school I was very judged. People would say you are at home why don’t you keep her with you. BELIEVE me if I could I would. I don’t want my tiny little girl going to spend most of the day with other people and it would save a lot of money.

However, an infant is a full time job on it’s own and then add in an actual full time job. I am on the phone most of the day and tied to the computer. When she needs me I can’t give her my full attention and when work needs me it’s a challenge. I am not self employed, I work for a large company that requires my attention.

Now that a lot more people are in this boat I am seeing a lot of posts about how hard it is! Our children need our full attention and our jobs need our full attention. It is a very difficult thing to do. It is also heart breaking when we can’t do both, it makes us feel less than or like we are doing something wrong.

We are NOT! We are doing the best we can. I am proud to be a working mom and show my daughter that you can have a career and a family. If I had my choice I would be with her all of the time but that doesn’t teach her many of the things she needs to learn.

I hope the mom shaming and judging stops one day but I know it won’t.

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Welcome Savannah

If you follow along you know that I just welcomed my first child. I could not be more in love or happy with our miracle. After years of surgeries, medications, trial & error, we had a successful round of IVF that gave us this precious girl. So lets talk delivery…

Birth Plan, I didn’t have a written birth plan because to me that was silly. You nor your doctor have any clue what will happen. It’s so unknown and different every time. I did however have some things I hoped (really really hoped) would happen.

  1. Go into labor naturally
  2. Natural delivery with no pain medication
  3. Skin to Skin asap
  4. Leave the hospital in the required 48 hours
  5. Breastfeed

So yah….how many of those happened….ONE! Can you guess which one?

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I was induced because I had just zero movement or signs that labor would happen any time soon and with the complications I already had it was time to evict the baby. I was induced at 40 weeks plus 1 day.

After 18 hours of being induced there was very little progress at all, so they broke my water. Things did start to progress but after a several more hours I was just exhausted and not able to sleep and my anxiety had hit a point of no return. I was on the verge of a panic attack. So I agreed to an epidural which would allow me to rest and hopefully reduce the anxiety.

My epidural process was honestly the worst part. I felt the CRNA wasn’t very compassionate and didn’t really listen to me at all. After an hour or so, with many tears shed by everyone in the room, it was finally placed. I was able to rest and then I started to realize hmm it’s no longer working. So by this time shift had changed and a new CRNA came in and had to switch medications. It was also to a point now where my water had been broken for 18 hours and that brings on additional risks.

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My doctor came in and I was fully dilated so lets start pushing. I pushed and pushed and this girl didn’t move. She must have been very happy inside. My doctor knew how much I did not want a c-section she she had held off the conversation for as long as possible. But here we were. She said I know you don’t want this but she is not going to come out this way. She was kind and said if you want to keep pushing we can go for another hour. I looked at my husband and he gave me the look that I knew we were going to have a c-section. The tears started flowing and I agreed.

I just kept saying I don’t want to do this.

Once in the room and my husband by my side, tears still flowing. We welcomed our gorgeous baby girl. Savannah, was 7lbs 14oz. There were some additional complications that I won’t get into and NICU was in the room so she went straight to them. She didn’t cry so I kept asking through the tears if she was ok. The CRNA wiped my tears and assured me she looked perfectly healthy and was doing well. My husband was with her and I finally heard the cry. Such relief. While I was still being tended to by the medical staff the NICU team brought her to me and laid her on my chest for skin to skin.

We were in the hospital for 5 days total and convinced them to let us go home early Thanksgiving morning to our house filled with family. I was in labor for 43 hours prior to the c-section. I will never forget seeing her face and knowing it was all worth it.

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This miracle I prayed for and fought for years to obtain finally happened and I am a new person.

My recommendation to anyone out there, don’t have a set plan! Have some goals knowing it could all change. Health & Safety of mom and baby are the priority.

So which of my goals happened…..breastfeeding! I have so far been able to breastfeed successfully and will share more in other posts.

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2020 Goals

So it’s another new year and time for me to set some focuses. These are the things I want to maintain throughout 2020. Some are the same as other years and some are new.

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  1. Healthy Lifestyle – continuing to focus on health, not just physically but mentally as well. Being a new mom my health and routine for this is year is going to be 100% different.
  2. Finances – I love to always keep a budget and meet financial goals for my family and our future.
  3. Mommy Schedule – I want to focus on getting Savannah into a good routine for her and I to make both of us happy and healthy!
  4. New things – I love to try new things and I want to do more of that. I want to visit new place, restaurants, parks and try it all.

These are my main focuses and goals of the new year. No I am not focusing on a specific weight number because I never care, the number doesn’t matter to me. I am not picking a specific number for finances because things change in an instant and I just want to maintain good progress and moving forward. Since making this a goal about 4 years ago and tracking everything I have been able to pay off student loans, a car and keep my credit card paid off at all times!

I love a focus! What are your goals or resolutions for 2020?

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Walking and Pregnancy

As you know I love to go on a walk or hike and I have shared the benefits of walking on a regular basis before. I have continued walking though my pregnancy as well and the benefits are great for this time as well.

A lot of people can fall into laying on the couch or eliminating activity during pregnancy because, lets face it, it can be really hard. The growing belly, back pain, swelling, balance changing, exhaustion and I could go on forever but I won’t. Some days after a full day of working the last thing I want to do is walk or work out BUT pushing through will benefit me more than sitting on the couch.

Benefits of Walking During Pregnancy

  • Keeps your heart strong and your muscle’s tones
  • May assist in a shorter easier labor
  • Helps to burn calories to assist with too much weight gain
  • Helps to protect against developing gestational diabetes & preeclampisia
  • Eases constipation
  • A great way to have Me Time
  • Helps to reduce bloating and swelling
  • Improves energy, mood & posture
  • Helps you to sleep better
  • Assists in getting back in shape after giving birth

These benefits are enough reasons for me to keep moving. I try to walk at least 5 days a week and also incorporate other workouts and activity into my week. This past week I did 6 days in a row of walking at almost 10 miles.

Listen to your body and make sure you have water and a phone with you just in case you need help.